1/16/2025 – “Our Common Welfare”–Notes from the WSO
Reprinted with permission of The Forum, Al‑Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA.
What It Means to Be an Al-Anon Family Group
“Family” is our middle name! Family members come in all shapes and sizes and while we have many differences, we come together through our common bond in an Al-Anon Family Group. Is your group ready to welcome anyone, anytime? In keeping with Tradition Three, which says, in part, “The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend,” and Tradition Five, which states that our one purpose is “to help families of alcoholics,” which we do by “welcoming and giving comfort” to those families, consider these responses when faced with obstacles in welcoming visitors and newcomers:
- When a teenager arrives, welcome them as an Al-Anon member. Safety in meetings applies to everyone.
- When someone other than the selected participants (parents, LGBTQIA+ members, men, etc., as found in the Advanced Search feature) arrives, welcome that person to the meeting and share how to find additional choices for their next meeting.
- Offer meeting lists with electronic and in-person options for attending Al-Anon meetings and contact numbers for support between meetings.
The Forum, December 2025, Page 15
3/9/2024 – Area Delegate Report
Greetings Area 17!! I’m excited to be serving as the Area Delegate and am humbled you have put your trust in me to serve the Indiana Area.
I’m working hard to prepare for the WSC in April and am slowly getting things wrapped around my head. There is so much information to go through, but I’m working through it slowly.
Please remember for love-gifts to be sent to the WSC, they need to be delivered to me to go with me in my luggage. Otherwise, cards or letters of support may be delivered to the following address:
Brenda K. (Hold for WSC 4/18–4/21, 2024)
The Founders Inn and Spa
5641 Indian River Rd.
Virginia Beach, VA 23464
Please have cards set to deliver after April 13, and before April 19. I’m looking forward to learning about the conference. My orientation date is April 18, so I am looking forward to understanding more about it at that time.
If you have any questions of me or want me to share my conference report in your district or meeting, please let me know and I’ll work out arrangements. Thank you all for your support.
Brenda K.
Area 17 Delegate
Panel 64
After the Earth Collapsed
Reprinted with permission of The Forum, Al‑Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA.
When I walked through the door of my first Al‑Anon meeting, I felt desperate and broken. I was hoping for some guidance or enlightenment and really needed some reassurance that I wasn’t going crazy. I was so entangled with my adult son and his young family that when the bottom fell out with regard to his disease and he fled his marriage and his baby son, I felt as though the earth had collapsed under my feet. I couldn’t make sense of anything, and I desperately wanted to help “fix” the situation.
I knew that only someone who had experienced something close to what I was going through could help me understand and come to grips with what was happening to me and those I loved. I was greeted so warmly at that first meeting that I immediately felt I belonged.
Because I was a newcomer, the members made it a Step One meeting and shared what had brought each of them to Al‑Anon and how long they’d been coming. I was shocked to learn that some had been attending for decades. One gentleman shared that he had been attending for 30 years, and the meetings had helped him find happiness and contentment in his life, even though his spouse was still actively drinking.
When I shared about my own pain surrounding my son’s disease, I was told that I didn’t cause it, I couldn’t control it, and I surely couldn’t cure it. At the end of the meeting, the Chairperson looked at me and spoke the entire Suggested Closing completely from memory. These lines were especially fitting: “A few special words to those of you who haven’t been with us long: Whatever your problems, there are those among us who have had them, too. If you try to keep an open mind, you will find help. You will come to realize that there is no situation too difficult to be bettered and no unhappiness too great to be lessened.” It was an incredible feeling.
After the meeting, the members suggested some Al‑Anon literature, and I bought two daily readers that I put to immediate use. I visited a few other meetings in my area and finally settled on one that best fit my schedule as my home group. In Al‑Anon, I truly feel that I have been welcomed “home.”
By Mary S., Indiana
The Forum, August 2023
https://al-anon.org/blog/after-the-earth-collapsed
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